Since I’m a divorced father of a beautiful princess, I can only hope that one day I get the chance to walk her down the aisle, if that’s what she wants to do. However, before she even thinks about walking down the aisle, I have to get her prepared for that phase in her life.
Most little girls grow up to be women with dreams of finding their prince charming one day, but the problem lies with the fact that too many little girls have never gotten a chance to be a princess. You can’t be with a prince if you don’t know what it’s like to be a princess. I’m not blaming the ladies for not experiencing the royal treatment of a princess throughout their lives, but I will ask for the men to step up and show their little girls what it’s like to be a princess, because they will make better wives.
Most black women are reluctant to admit that they have daddy issues, and often times, they don’t try to resolve them before getting into a serious relationship with a man. Your father is supposed to be the first image that you have of a man as a little girl, whether positive or negative. If you have a great daddy in your life, chances are, you will end up with a great man because you will be able to make a better choice due to the example that your father set forth. However, if your daddy wasn’t all that great, you may also end up with a man similar to him, which won’t help your relationship. In order to break this negative cycle, you either have to sit with your “inadequate father” and talk it out with him or go to the next psych clicnic to seek professional help.
Most people don’t place too much emphasis on the fact that a great relationship can only be built when we resolve our own issues first. We can’t lean towards a partner to help resolve something that has been a part of our lives before we met him/her. Those issues have to be addressed beforehand so that a prosperous relationship can develop. I dont wanna knock anybody for wanting to form a loving union with with a partner, but let’s remove the struggling part of that union before we even get started. There are too many beautiful, prefessional, intelligent and single sisters out there. We need to build the black family and it all starts with us.